Not all women have a real man to stand beside them. The world needs more great men, who are willing to learn about all of this and to be an enthusiastic participant in their child’s life, beginning with their birth.
You are also going through one of the most life-changing experiences of your life, one that can be enormously consequential as to the kind of father you will be to this particular child, and to the kind of man you are continually becoming.
Unfortunately, fathers are often forgotten—even pushed aside in the very moment of their child’s birth.
But, your woman and your child need you at this vulnerable time to be gentle, sensitive, and attentive. Even more, they need your protection. If it is important to you to be a protector and guide to this child throughout her/his growing up years and beyond, it is not at all too early to start. Your child needs you now perhaps more than ever, to be as strong and knowledgeable and well-informed as you can be.
What father doesn’t naturally have some fears surrounding this important time in their lives? It is entirely normal, but many men have gone through it and survived and found it to be a growing, wonderful experience despite their initial list of reservations.
It is important to understand that particularly during the actual labor and birth, you will not necessarily be able to depend on the mother of your child to be able to take care of situations that arise. It will be important at that time that you have done your homework and are prepared. Our book, Wise Childbearing, will help you to do that.
Mainly, your child and his mother need you to be there; to really be there. You are so important to them. What you make of this time will matter so very much not only to them, but also to yourself in the future.
(Adapted from Wise Childbearing)
